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links and ideas

public service by dan savage

“the clitoris… i know so much about it! it’s like a country i’ve never been to, but i’ve read every travel guide.
angor watangor twat i should call it!”

dan savage answers sex related questions live on events and on a column called savage love. it’s pure public service of setting records straight about sexuality in a frank, no-nonsense voice.

recently, he started it gets better, a project where he + his husband and hundreds of other people (including tim gunn, perez hilton or chris colfer) send lgbt teenagers a clear message:

Many LGBT youth can’t picture what their lives might be like as openly gay adults. They can’t imagine a future for themselves. So let’s show them what our lives are like, let’s show them what the future may hold in store for them.

i think this is a remarkable project. high school really is a tough time (and not only for lgbt teenagers), but it gets better for all of us, often just the moment high school ends. hang in there, it does get better.

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just life links and ideas

101 things in 1001 days – second edition

it’s been over 1001 days since i made version one of my 101 things list… which didn’t go all that well. i did about 40% of the tasks, and reached some conclusions.
1001 days seemed like a lifetime 3 years ago, and so i sprinkled the list with wishful thinking and lots of travelling adventures… which ended up not happening (e.g. roadtrip coast-to-coast in the US). it turns out, our big travels are not conditioned by items in a list, but rather by whims and opportunities. it’s not that we travelled less, we just ended up choosing different places to go to – and that’s ok.
another thing i’ve learned is that things… change. i’ve lost interest on a lot of items (e.g. be better at iceskating) while others turned out not to be so compatible to our current circumstances (e.g. starting a compost pile). other things turned out better than i expected (e.g. instead of going 100% freelance, i work remotely).

all in all though, i liked the idea of having this big list with a set deadline – it didn’t shape my future, but it did focus me on certain goals. the second list took me a lot more time to draft, as i’ve struggled to remain more practical and make sure all the items are all “doable”. i really want to do better this time.

so, 101 fresh things for the next 1001 days:

  • Do the HSK intermediate
  • Make a pinhole & take some photos with it
  • Take calligraphy/handwriting lessons
  • Draw a font
  • Read 50 new books (half of which in portuguese)
  • Write 750 words for a month
  • Spend a week offline
  • Reach my goal weight
  • Be ok in snowboarding
  • Write 20 letters
  • Write/draw a small guide to Ljubljana/Slovenia
  • Research about Slovenia/Balkans history
  • Identify 10 different trees
  • Taste 30 different fruits
  • Taste 20 different cheeses
  • Try a autocaravan holiday
  • Visit a volcano
  • Fly on a glider
  • Learn how to scuba dive
  • Visit a mail sorting facility
  • Draw and get a tattoo
  • Visit a theme park
  • Volunteer
  • Do a photobook of our time in Slovenia
  • Try 25 different teas
  • Do a medical checkup
  • Go to the dentist
  • Draw a comic strip
  • Write 20 lists
  • Find 150 geocaches
  • Apply to the green card lottery november 2010
  • Visit 20 Unesco sites: historic areas of istanbul, october 2010
  • Fly a kite
  • Visit 15 different museums
  • Do 5 videos
  • Go to 20 concerts
  • Watch a sport event live
  • Climb 10 Slovenian mountains: tromeja, ratitovec
  • Hot air balloon ride
  • Go rafting/canoeing
  • Roadtrip in the EU: slovenia-austria-germany-netherlands, september 2010
  • Be halfway through our house goal fund
  • Move again
  • Do 20 surprises: bday parcel
  • Find out what I want to do related with stationery
  • Sponsor an artist on Kickstart
  • Make ice cream from scratch
  • Buy some Christmas lights to decorate
  • Do a secret art project in the city
  • Go see an opera
  • Go see a ballet
  • Sell something on etsy and use the money to buy something there
  • Go an entire month without eating out
  • Go an entire month without using a car (not even friend’s cars)
  • View all of Star Wars movies october 2010
  • Donate five dollars to wikipedia for each goal failed
  • Track the progress of every item on the blog
  • Fill my recipes notebook with recipes
  • Get a Fuji Instax and start documenting our life
  • Feel a baby kick inside a friend’s belly
  • Try to eat local for a week
  • Start laser hair removal
  • Take a cooking class
  • Use all the yarn I have
  • Design and print a postcard
  • Write something for a newspaper
  • Review 25 pieces of stationery
  • Lose the jumping habit
  • Try 20 different sodas
  • Go karting
  • Blog at least 3 times a week for 3 months
  • Put 200 meals on Foodspotting
  • Go see the sea organ in Zadar
  • Make 5 surprise breakfasts
  • Drastically reduce the amount of coffee I drink
  • Ride a ferris wheel
  • Carve a rubber stamp
  • Try sledding
  • Create an herb garden
  • Redesign meiadeleite.com
  • Host 10 people through Couchsurfing
  • Write a letter to someone once a week for 10 weeks
  • Learn to cook 10 new soups: mushroom soup
  • Design a tshirt
  • Fill a notebook with notes from books/articles
  • Straighten up the SS details + get EU health card
  • Get the surgery done
  • Do NaNowriMo (for the blog) once
  • Learn how to do sushi
  • Fix hanzillion and plan half a year of posts
  • Cook pad thai
  • Organize a tea swap
  • Track our calories for a month
  • Pick a holiday and go overboard on the celebrations
  • Make a cute bento box
  • Shoot only in black and white for a month
  • Ride a scooter
  • Buy a Dr. Seuss book
  • Try 10 different types of film
  • Buy something on a flea market
  • Try currywurst in Berlin

some of the things i’ve already completed while the list was still a draft, like watching the whole set of star wars movie (pfeeew!), but i’ve only started the official countdown a few days ago, so the new deadline is set for jul 30, 2013. wish me luck! :)

ps – if you’re thinking of doing one, head over to dayzeroproject.com for inspiration from other people’s lists!

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foooood in slovenia

‘shrooms!

autumn is my favourite season. it’s cold, but not freezing, the leaves turn to gorgeous colors… but the best part is the food! there’s persimmons, roasted chestnuts, apples, hot chocolate, gluhwein here and there… and mushrooms!

portugal isn’t a very “mushroomy” country, and it was only when i left home that i started to realise there was more to mushrooms than the yellow-mushy-canned variety. since then we’ve been in a path to enlightenment, slowly discovering different varieties and flavours.

and then we came to slovenia and we were blown away. due to a perfect combination of forests, humidity and sun, this country is mushroom paradise! mushroom picking is something everybody seems to know about: which ones to pick, how to pick them, how to cook… it’s a national hobbie! it’s so popular that there’s a law forbidding any person to pick more than 2kg in a day!

on a recent hike with the ics club, we’ve learnt a couple of things about this art. first, everything red is a big no-no, potentially deadly, and there are a few deaths per year caused by ingestion of poisoning mushrooms. and when picking mushrooms you should never pull them up from the roots, instead cutting with a blade to preserve the crop.

here’s a sample of what we saw on that hike:


+10 points for slovenia! :D

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in slovenia photography

a girl and her holga

i’ve recently passed the 100 photos on a girl and her holga – which for someone as disorganised as me, it’s a true feat :)
here are some of my recent favourites, a bit from all over slovenia:



(while posting, i’ve noticed the last 3 photos were taken in borders with other countries. in a country this small, you meet these invisible lines quite often :) )

i love the holga. it’s ultra-light, therefore perfect to carry everywhere on my bag. it doesn’t need batteries, which means less things to remember. it looks old at first glance, but once people touch it and realise it’s made of plastic, nobody takes it seriously. there are only 12 or 16 photos per roll, making you focus on what you want on each single picture. and it’s so simple and stripped of “options” that not much can go wrong.

adjust focus, shoot, advance film.

perfect.

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traveling

constantinople

(a collection of scattered thoughts scribbled in loose notes on our flight back from istanbul last week)

i have the turkish airlines jingle stuck in my head for the duration of the flights, courtesy of watching too much cnn. the extent of our preparations for this trip can be resumed to:
– preparing & rehearsing a keynote
– making sure we had plenty of business cards (last minute order from moo.com, arrived in 4 days!)
– make hotel reservations and couchsurfing requests
– downloading the istanbul iphone app (no time to dwell into guidebooks, all we needed was a quick intro to the tourist traps & a map).

so without many preparations, it’s only when the plane hovers the city just before landing that you start to realise how massive it is. it goes on forever, in plaid patterns of houses woven in hills between the masses of water. reminds us a bit of lisbon with its hills… on a closer look though, as the tram makes it way to the city center, we start to realise that this city has a lot more things in common with the east than the west. even the language sounds like japanese.

istanbul is home to a population of many millions, and you can tell from the worn feeling it has and the myriad of people crowding the streets, moving fast from a place to the next. we made use of every possible means of transportation: metro, tram, bus, funicular, ferry, taxi, even mini-bus (a van that stops where you want it to, within a certain route). all crowded and busy and fast. the traffic is chaotic, by many levels worse than we’ve experienced in china. in istanbul the streets are narrow, hilly and tortuous, contouring labyrinths in the middle of houses where the cars frequently get blocked and backtrack, fast forwarding themselves in imaginary lanes. while in china you felt the weight of the government’s micromanaging, the laws on the tip of everyone’s tongue, in here it’s the complete opposite. you feel a sort of barely controlled anarchy, in a set of sub-rules that are not clearly stated, or understood. i feel at loss, and yet intrigued to discover this code of conduct that eludes me.

for a country in which over 90% of the population is muslim, we don’t see as many women wearing scarfs as i would expect. we’re told this is because istanbul is a modern city, and the veil is not mandatory by the islam law – only the more strict use it. there’s plenty of mosques with tilled walls and and in certain hours you hear the calls for prayer. they give istanbul a magical aura, in sharp contrast with the mundane bustle of the city.

little things: the weather is mostly sunny the whole time, in sharp contrast with the cold that we in slovenia. we discover there are no postboxes for mail – which is deposited directly on the post offices. the simits (bagels?) we get from the street vendors taste great. so does the baklava. it feels like nobody speaks english (not that it deters us). the streets have unpronounceable names that are hard to find even in google maps or our gps (twice stopped on the airport for inspection). and all the toilet bowls have the embedded water jet to wash your behind – wet wipes won’t catch on here.

i take a few pictures here and there, mainly to appease my father. i feel like a japanese tourist every time i pull my camera out in a overcrowded city like this one. so i don’t. the holga is the only camera i take out regularly. while we wander without direction, we find a shop selling every kind of ilford film, and i stock on them.

we get lost in the labyrinthic paths of the bazaars, but the salesmen here are friendlier, less desperate to make a sale, and a lot less nagging. they serve us sweet apple tea (which we later find out it’s not typical from turkey, but something that the tourists like). to anyone who has ever taken a stroll down huai hai lu, this is peanuts. we buy scarfs and some ties and shirts on the neighbouring streets – we’re here on business after all. and the business part of this visit goes well. we wake up early, put our suits, ties and pretty shoes, do our hair and makeup, stock the pockets with business cards. our presentation goes smoothly, we get plenty of encouraging words, name cards and new ideas (oh! and goodies of the postal variety). mission accomplished.

we travel to the anatolian side through the bridge and are greeted by a yellow sign “welcome to asia”. but regardless the lack of foreign glyphs, the whole istanbul feels like asia, and not just the other side of the bosphorus.

turkey frightens and fascinates me in equal parts. it forces us to stand outside of our element, which is why i think we’ll go back, for a longer period of time. i was not really cut out for this “x days in” kind of travel. besides, with our dark hair and eyes, i think we could be pretty much camouflaged and blend in – at least until we open our mouths, but hey, that’s more we were ever able to achieve in shanghai!

the turks greet friends like the portuguese, with a kiss in each cheek… but then they add 2 cozy hugs, one on each side, for good measure. :) it feels really warm and… right. see you soon, istanbul!